Oregon 2005 June Carol & Danny's visits
From Carol:
June 13, 2005
Hello all, I was picked up at the airport by Greg, Mary and Mom....... Mary went home and we went to Grants Pass.... Mom looks good physically... I think she lost some weight..... Dropped Greg and my luggage off and Mom and I went to lunch to JJ north to meet Dad.... Dad arrived shortly after we just got there and approached Mom with a beautiful lily from the yard for his lily....was very cute.... lunch was a little stressed.(but not too bad).... Mom with lots of questions and then gets very irritated if I would answer while she was asking a question.....she wanted DAD to answer.. tried to change conversation and she getting a little irritated... changing the subject she would say....went to see Dads spiffy new car while Dad was eating his dessert...... Mom doesn’t understand if he has money for a new car she knows he has money to pay for help to come in the house and help her stay with her husband....... on the ride back to Margaret’s lots of talking about who is making decisions and why hasn’t anyone asked her what she wants... She said she wants to go to heaven and asks God why He is doing this ..she wants to just be up there with Him if she can’t go home to her house with her husband.... Heather was doing Margaret’s hair when we arrived home so it is so nice to have different people come and go to visit and distract Mom.... Sue and Dave came up for a bit.... Then I took Mom for a walk.... Up the end of the block and then around the block and stopped and visited outside with the Allensworth gang..... Then around the corner and stopped and visited Sue and Dave outside while finishing dinner.... Back to Margaret’s then I went over to Dad’s to do eye drops and sleep..... Dad seems ok it will be anxious to see what doctor says... he and Sue going to appt at 1:30 or so today.... Dad said he was tired last night so didn’t want me to do anything around the house.... we visited about the pope and rosary etc.... than off to bed we went... now its time to go relieve Sue who had night duty last night and Dad duty today.... Margaret has 4 days of school left... till next time.....
From: Carol
June 16, 2005
Day 2, So I did Dad’s eye drops Sunday pm arrived at Margaret’s to relieve Sue and then Sue and I walk around block 2 times... can’t do again as I have to walk Mom in wheelchair around the block later enough for me..... Mom and I went to Ray grocery downtown.. then walked around outside of shops cause groceries in car.... had sandwiches for lunch.... nice to have Dave and Jon around to interact and visit.. then around the block in wheelchair.... then sitting outside beautiful day.... Margaret comes home we run 2 errands for her downtown and I put chicken on for supper.... Margaret the super skinny women swims in AM has also started biking..... Not a Harley though... no motor a regular peddling bike and than walks with Heather..... then her and Margaret come back we eat dinner than out for another walk on easy level street..... went to Sues visited about Dads eyes... gave Mom scoop.... she is going to surgery want to go home and be with etc....... goes up to Margaret’s because she insists on it and then when we return mad because we are keeping secrets..... tell her what we know.... have lots of long decisions on why she can’t go home its not fair etc.... we have all been there toooooooooo many times you know the routine... We let her call Dad... they chat for awhile... she ends up getting angry I get on other line cut in and he says bye... Mom throws phone Dad mad as?????????/@@@@@@@@@@@@@. We chat again and do another walk...... calms down after awhile back to Margaret’s and get packed to go to GP for eye drops and to sleep.... Dad very hungry after walking in backyard.... He is thoroughly enjoying Mary’s custard and muffins which he ate after walking and then continued to have applesauce and crackers..... chatted lots about the war and boxing..... at 11pm did eye drops and went to bed..... Is AM Tuesday I went to grocery store and going to do drops in a little while he will go swim today then off to RR to be with Mom and have a visit with my godson (the Daddy) and Crystal.... Sue did night duty last night I will be with Mom and have night duty for 2 nights... Margaret done with school Thursday......
Lots of decisions to make on daily basis... now that Dad needs daily help scheduling is difficult... Dave C doing eye drops every AM this week for Dad.... Greg watching Mom for 2 hrs today while I see Sean.... each day a challenge and stressful but seems to work its way out somehow.......
God has blessed this family for a very long time and will continue to do so and we come upon there daily challenges....... Keep praying
Love, Carol
June 15, 2005
hello it is Wed AM... yesterday I went to the store for Dad got groceries and did eye drops...Dad states he thinks he used to have something wrong with prostate didn’t sleep a lot going to the bathroom... now on homeopathic med and Mom not being there he sleeps 4 or so hr at a time and is relieved.... thanks to Margaret for opening up her home and the constant care given by all.... back to Rogue River for Mom duty.. went for walk with Sue around block 2x. then Mom and I had lunch.... Sean, Crystal and Ara arrived and we visited with them for awhile on Sue’s porch and I had an ear wax experience..... everyone should try it. quite interesting.... back to Margaret’s for awhile Greg watched Mom and I went back to Sue’s for an hour... beautiful baby and great parents they seem to have it worked out well.... then took Mom for a walk in wheelchair weather has been beautiful, then a later dinner..... then cutting veggies for Margaret for her noodles... Lori came up for a nice visit and is celebrating her 4th anniversary on Thurs... boy, time flies... I had night duty last night up quite a few time but the rail is not on bed for the 2nd night so sometimes she gets up by herself... its like you sleep with one eye open... and as far as my ears go I could hear her much better thanks to Sue and the ear wax job.... going to try to give a shower to Mom today hopefully and not sure what else.... to all FLEXIBLILITY is the key to all...............
as I lay in bed this am Jon up Mom moving around in room and Jon says good morning and asks if she needs any help.............. so sweet.....................
‘til next time
Carol
June 15, 2005
SO IT’S WED STARTED OFF GOOD WE TOOK SHOWERS... CHANGED SHEETS DID 3 LOADS OF LAUNDRY... HAD LUNCH AT HOME WENT TO SENIOR CENTER DOWNTOWN RR.... LADY WAS SICK TODAY SO IT WAS CANCELLED SO INSTEAD OF GETTING IN CAR WHICH IS AN ACT OF CONGRESS... WE TOOK A WALK QUITE AWAYS DOWNTOWN WENT TO 2 THRIFT STORES, BEN FRANKLIN AND ROAMED... SHE STARTED GETTING ANGRY ON THE WAY BACK FROM WALK.. GOT IN CAR WENT TO MARGARETS... VERY MAD AT ME THE ENTIRE TIME... SUE GAVE SOME INFO I READ BEFORE ABOUT REDIRECTING, TURN ON TV ECT... ABSOUTLY NOTHING WORKED... SHE WOULD NOT SAY A WORD AND THAN IF SHE DID SAME OLD SAME OLD... JOEL CALLED WAS ON HIS WAY AND I WARNED HIM GRANDMAS MOOD.. HE SAID I WILL HAVE TO CHANGE THAT FOR YOU........... THANK GOD....... HE CAME AND SHE WENT OUT WITH HIM TO FRONT AND HE GOT A BIT OF AN EAR FULL... HE VACUMED HER CAR FOR HER AND DID HIS OWN AND CHANGED OIL. BOY WAS I GLAD FOR THE DISTRACTION.. MARGARET CAME HOME IN THE MEANTIME SHE ALSO HAS A FABULOUS WAY WITH HER.... I MADE CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES AND DINNER.... DAVE AND SUE CAME FROM DAD’S AND BROUGHT HER A BEAUTIFUL BOUQUET OF FLOWERS.... IN A VASE THEY GO AND TO DINNER WE EAT..... WHILE DINNER GOING ON DAD CALLS THEY CHAT FOR A FEW… FAIRLY A CIVIL CONVERSATION. DAD SAYS HE NEEDS TO EAT HE IS HUNGRY... THEY HANG UP... THEN OFF FOR OUR WHEELCHAIR WALK AROUND THE BLOCK......... I AM GETTING MORE EXERCISE UP HERE THAN I HAVE HAD IN A YEAR... FRESH AIR DOES WONDERS..........WALKED WITH SUE AND DAVE AROUND BLOCK MOM SITS IN WHEELCHAIR IN YARD AND WAVE WHEN WE GO BY.... ANOTHER FIT….LATER IN EVENING SUE WORKS WITH MOM FOR A FEW AND SAID IT’S OK TO BE SAD BUT THAT’S WHAT WE ARE DOING... MOM COMES OUT OF ROOM AND LEAVES MESSAGE FOR DAD ON PHONE AND WE GO WATCH SOUND OF MUSIC.... IT’S TEN PM AND TURN IT OFF..... TIME FOR ME TO CATCH A SNOOZE.............. YOU THINK SHE WILL SLEEP LATE AND OR NOT GET UP TOO MUCH??????????? ANY WAGERS??????????????? WILL KEEP YOU POSTED.......
LOVE, Carol
p.s. MARY I THINK YOUR SUGGESTION FOR DAD TO CALL HER ONCE IN AWHILE IS WONDERFUL. I ALSO ASKED DAD IF HE MINDS IF SHE CALLS HE SAID NO HE USUALLY DOES NOT ANSWER THE PHONE AND WILL DECIDE TO CALL BACK OR NOT........... TONIGHT I WENT TO THE PHONE IN THE BACK ROOM AND CALLED DAD AND LEFT A MESSAGE NOT TO ANSWER BECAUSE SHE WOULD BE CALLING HIM IN 2 MINUTES.......WHICH SHE DID AND LEFT HIM A MESSAGGE...........SWEET DREAMS TO ALL.....................
June 16, 2005
last night she was up quite a bit... sometimes you just quit counting...thought she was getting up about 8 and then she never came out of room till 10am............... wow.......... Dave Cotner over and we shot the bull......... then we did a load of wash and made a pound cake and back to sleep in her chair she goes... she sleep quite a bit in early afternoon... then we played cards and racko and did a 25 piece puzzle which she had fun doing.. she worked on outside of the puzzle and wanted me to do the middle then I got a phone call and she worked and worked and got the middle together herself with a little help... it was cold and wet today so we did not go out at all which makes for a longer day...........not quite as confused today and her mood was much better than yesterday.... Sarah and Evan came over this evening and Grandma and Evan were trying to play racko... it was a crackup....... then trying to put numbers in order.... Evan and I were talking about school and he said he will be in kindergarten again this year because he doesn’t know his Mom or Dad phone number and Grandma said I don’t know my phone number either... so we all got a chuckle out of that. Margaret done working today and very relieved....went to see Dad on lunch hour and ended up there for over 2 hrs.... Tomorrow I will take Mom to senior center and they have a caregivers meeting this week so will attend and pass info... than I will go to Dad’s and make salad and visit per my instructions from Margaret......... the planner.... Mom getting to bed tonight not too happy but didn’t pitch too much of a fit.............. turned on her music and got her comfy.............. time for what snooze I can catch..
Love, Carol
June 17, 2005
soooooooooooooo up tons last night........ o well you adapt..........flexibility.......... glennon theme.......in AM I took Mom to senior center she and I visited and then she made a collage and I went to a monthly support meeting with a few other women........... not any new suggestions but different people with similar problems.......Dad went to one of these but he was the only man there....... since not caring for Mom now per say he feels he does not need to go.......... he went to one ..that’s enough.. back to Margaret’s for lunch... then I went to grants pass for Dad duty........ I vacuumed and put his clean sheets on bed he had already washed them. Watered plants went to grocery store and made him dinner per his directions and also made some stewed tomatoes per his directions and a veggie salad thing Diane started. For future visitors... directions to above items and more are in spare room on yellow pad......... they will come in handy........ be prepared. he looks a little better today than the other day......... doing eye drops by himself.... he mentioned that he thinks his blood sugar is messed up and he needs to go out and exercise in backyard.......... later said he has some lesions on his back and wanted aloe vera on it but not tonight he was too tired... if my food passed his dinner taste buds he might have me over next week to do more for him...............back to Margaret’s for Mom duty... Heather came over for a short visit... Margaret spending night at Lori's they are out of town for anniversary, Jon out of town, Greg at Joel's since Joel out of town.... just Mom and I tonight... she was a little nervous I assured her we were fine without a man and we doubled checked the doors............. good night to all.............. Carol
From: Carol
June 18, 2005
So it was Mom and I alone last night........... nobody else home......... a little strange but went ok.... went to bed 10ish... up several times till 11 then I heard her some but she didn’t call so I stayed in bed but not sleeping... she called at 3 ish........ had wet the bed and couldn’t move........... got all cleaned up and back up again 45 minutes later same story......... finally back down by 5 am.... was up by 8:15 to start day........... Margaret and Heather had mother daughter time at the mall and many other places in Medford............ You know it’s so far away..... they invited Mom and I to meet them for lunch.... it was another cold wet day but after showers Mom and I we ventured to that far away place called Medford... was a nice lunch looked in Myer and Frank.... with all… then Mom and I off to walk the mall and window shop.... Margaret and Heather continued to many stores............ Mom and I had another shower getting in the car from the mall was raining quite heavy and as you know Mom is no spring chicken............ conversation on way home where is Tom etc............. seems a little more accepting and then we came home… folded clothes, watched some TV and called Dad left message that she and I are spending the night here... will see him tomorrow for lunch.... Heather and Margaret home 5:30 ish... Sue came over they had a wedding visited a bit..... she has graciously offered to keep Mom tonight since this is night 5 for me I took her up on the offer and I will go to Heathers for an hour to see baby shower presents and then back here to Jon's bed to SLEEP. it always seems to work out around here with all ............... till next time......
June 19, 2005
Sleep is a wonderful gift needed by all at one time or another.... Thanks Susan for the relief........ went to see baby stuff at Heathers till 10ish sat night then visited with Sue while Mom slept for a little bit then off to Jon's bed about 10:45pm ... woke up at 5:45 AM did not hear a thing all night.......... was WONDERFUL.
Sun AM watched mass on TV the priest talked a long time Mom got fidgety but sat through.... breakfast walk ect.. Heather came over........... Met Dad and Kathy at Wild River for Father’s day lunch........ Mom did very well and Dad looks good............ Mom did not have any angry moments at the table and did fairly well on the way back to Margaret’s.......... we chatted about situation but she did not holler or cry or get mad at Dad during lunch which was nice........... back to Margaret’s Lori and Henry came by Mom and I played games watched Sound of Music and off to be we go...........Margaret was thinking about taking Mom and I to coast tomorrow but no handicap room available.... so will find something to do I am sure. Margaret started telling Mom she will be staying here indefinitely when she asks when she is going home. Mom seems fine with the answer........... till next time.......................Carol
June 21, 2005
The coast was an adventure yesterday....today Tuesday Mom had a shower and then to pizza at Bacci's with Heather Cheyenne Jon and Margaret... Cheyenne has 2 kids Mom loved talking and watching them... I went to Dads afternoon did shopping for him 2 stores made dinner fish etc made pineapple sauce and visited. looks ok... he says he is tired from the air being so heavy and one of his eye drops make him tired. He didn’t eat breakfast until 2pm yesterday.............. back to Rogue River visited 15 min with Scott and Heather then to Kathy and Sheila's for 30 then to Sue and Dave's for 30 back to 416 to put Mom to bed.. Margaret looked tired she cleaned and reorganized her house today.......put Mom to bed about 10 and she is now roaming the hallway................... ugh............. will close for now.... Danny and Paula here sometime tomorrow...
2 observations: When you get Mom in car if only to go down the street to pizza or anywhere she always thinks she is going home and the questions begin......... not to say she should not go in the car but maybe just a heads up.............emailing info if great for those of us who don’t live here d but probably somewhat of a task for the informant.....
Love to all, Carol
From: Paula Glennon
Sent: Thursday, June 23, 2005 5:06 PM
Subject: G and G
Albuquerque Glennon days 1 and 2........Got into town around 11a.m. on Wed. Got to see Carol briefly before Heather and Cheyenne took her away to the airport. Had a nice visit with them before they left for Medford. Had a lovely lunch with Grandma on the Cotner's porch. Patrick and Melissa were recruited as kitchen assistants and the fare was scrumptious! Very nice company and atmosphere eating on their front porch!
Jon took Danny, Patrick and Melissa out on the river for rafting/kayaking. According to both kids the trip was !Awesome! Melissa almost flew off the raft! They had never done anything like this before, and Patrick was quite the natural. They came home wet and wild!
Paula and Grandma had a nice visit with Sheila and Joey while they were at the river. Boy, is he getting big! He was into everything! Walking all over the place. Sheila looks great, motherhood certainly agrees with her. She had seen Heather's OB and he says to cut back her hours at Costco to 24 hr/wk. I think that is a great idea, sounds like she has been working way too many hours.
Dinner was served in the Cotner's backyard. Again, the younger Glennon siblings were recruited as assistants. Dinner was delicious and oh so nutritious! We got to visit with Sean, Crystal and Arri. What a little bundle!!!! And it was wonderful to see Sean and finally meet Crystal. After dinner everyone toured Dave and Susan's new RV (purchased earlier that day) Quite the rig!!! Got all the bells and whistles!!! Then Crystal, Paula and the Kids played several high stakes rounds of Rummy Cube (after slight adjustments to the rules to accommodate the rookies, much to Sean's dismay). It was a fun night for all and the Glennon family appreciated the good food and enjoyed the good company.
Grandma had a pretty good day with all the company. I thought she was in a good mood almost all the time. We did wear her out, but she mostly bounced back after a pre-dinner nap. Danny had night duty that first night. He was very good with his mom. Very patient, and helpful with her. Got up about 5 times, mostly between 11:00 and 2:00.
Up early on Thurs am for walk (Margaret, Heather and Paula). Quite invigorating (gorgeous morning) and tiring (Heather walks too darn fast for us!!!) Had a cup of coffee at Heather's and visited with Cheyenne and Ethan and Ellie. Met up with Susan and Melissa out walking on the way back. Danny and Patrick were off on a rigorous adventure to buy Great Harvest breads and groceries. Only got lost twice!!! (Pretty good). No big thing, since everything's soooooo close around here!!!
Paula, Melissa and Grandma hung out watching a great movie (The Scarlet and the Black, highly recommended by Susan) while the boys shopped/got lost and Margaret went to the Y for swimming and yoga. Then yummy lunch with Jon and tour of the Fire Station. Quite interesting and fun to get inside the trucks and ambulance. Jon sure knows his stuff!!!
Danny, Patick and Melissa are currently baking blueberry pound cake, Grandma is napping and Margaret has left to help set up at Heather's baby shower. Kathy will pick Grandma, Melissa and Paula up after work and drive us over to the shower. Looking forward to seeing her, just ran out of time (and energy) last night for a visit to the Allensworth house.
That's all for now, just saw the time and have to get all ready to go.
Love,
Paula
From: Paula Glennon
Date: 6/28/2005 5:25:15 AM
Subject: G and G
Well, we're home now. I'll try to fill in where I left off at Margaret's on Thursday. Kathy picked Melissa and I up for Heather's shower. Grandma was just too tired to go and we weren't going to push her. She ended up staying home with Patrick, Danny and Greg and watched the whole NBA Final Game. She had a good time with the boys!!
We had a really good time at the shower. Lots of people, good food and gifts to unwrap. I really enjoyed seeing the Allensworth ladies and meeting several of Margaret's co-workers. Caryn, Heather's mother-in-law, has a beautiful backyard out in the country.
Thursday night was a little rougher for Danny, up a lot. Grandma woke up Friday and ate about six of Danny's blueberry walnut squares. We had to finally hide them from her! I walked with Margaret and Heather and enjoyed more of Cheyenne's gourmet coffee. Then we headed up to Margaret's with Ethan for Danny's world renowned French Toast. Susan and Dave came over for a slice too. Joel came later and scarfed the leftovers. All gave rave reviews!
Margaret went swimming, to a friends and garage sale-ing. Danny, Paula and kids hung out with Grandma, Joel and Greg and cleaned a little and did a little laundry. Danny fixed strawberry and blueberry smoothies for lunch.
Glennon's went to Grants Pass to pick up Grandpa around 3:00 pm for the BBQ. Came back and learned how to prepare trout on the barbie. Thanks, Henry, for the great fish and great recipe ideas. The BBQ was a huge success, lots of people in and out and eating and visiting. Thank you, Margaret, for getting everybody together for us to visit with. Glennon’s took Grandpa to Fred Meyers on way home to pick up a few things. He took some of Danny's blueberry pound cake (another hit with the Oregon crowd) home to enjoy later.
Friday night was another rough one, Grandma up many times and very weak. She got up Saturday morning in pretty good shape and in a good mood and looking for those walnut bars for breakfast. Danny gave her a couple and hid the last couple for her for later.
We sadly said our goodbye's and headed north to Salem. It was a busy and fun 3 days. It was so good to see so many of you gals and guys (Danny told me to put that!) Hopefully we won't take 7 more years before we come back. Thank you! We love you!
P.S. I may not have everyone's email that usually gets these, so please forward on to whoever I missed that is in your family. Thanks!
June 13, 2005
Hello all, I was picked up at the airport by Greg, Mary and Mom....... Mary went home and we went to Grants Pass.... Mom looks good physically... I think she lost some weight..... Dropped Greg and my luggage off and Mom and I went to lunch to JJ north to meet Dad.... Dad arrived shortly after we just got there and approached Mom with a beautiful lily from the yard for his lily....was very cute.... lunch was a little stressed.(but not too bad).... Mom with lots of questions and then gets very irritated if I would answer while she was asking a question.....she wanted DAD to answer.. tried to change conversation and she getting a little irritated... changing the subject she would say....went to see Dads spiffy new car while Dad was eating his dessert...... Mom doesn’t understand if he has money for a new car she knows he has money to pay for help to come in the house and help her stay with her husband....... on the ride back to Margaret’s lots of talking about who is making decisions and why hasn’t anyone asked her what she wants... She said she wants to go to heaven and asks God why He is doing this ..she wants to just be up there with Him if she can’t go home to her house with her husband.... Heather was doing Margaret’s hair when we arrived home so it is so nice to have different people come and go to visit and distract Mom.... Sue and Dave came up for a bit.... Then I took Mom for a walk.... Up the end of the block and then around the block and stopped and visited outside with the Allensworth gang..... Then around the corner and stopped and visited Sue and Dave outside while finishing dinner.... Back to Margaret’s then I went over to Dad’s to do eye drops and sleep..... Dad seems ok it will be anxious to see what doctor says... he and Sue going to appt at 1:30 or so today.... Dad said he was tired last night so didn’t want me to do anything around the house.... we visited about the pope and rosary etc.... than off to bed we went... now its time to go relieve Sue who had night duty last night and Dad duty today.... Margaret has 4 days of school left... till next time.....
From: Carol
June 16, 2005
Day 2, So I did Dad’s eye drops Sunday pm arrived at Margaret’s to relieve Sue and then Sue and I walk around block 2 times... can’t do again as I have to walk Mom in wheelchair around the block later enough for me..... Mom and I went to Ray grocery downtown.. then walked around outside of shops cause groceries in car.... had sandwiches for lunch.... nice to have Dave and Jon around to interact and visit.. then around the block in wheelchair.... then sitting outside beautiful day.... Margaret comes home we run 2 errands for her downtown and I put chicken on for supper.... Margaret the super skinny women swims in AM has also started biking..... Not a Harley though... no motor a regular peddling bike and than walks with Heather..... then her and Margaret come back we eat dinner than out for another walk on easy level street..... went to Sues visited about Dads eyes... gave Mom scoop.... she is going to surgery want to go home and be with etc....... goes up to Margaret’s because she insists on it and then when we return mad because we are keeping secrets..... tell her what we know.... have lots of long decisions on why she can’t go home its not fair etc.... we have all been there toooooooooo many times you know the routine... We let her call Dad... they chat for awhile... she ends up getting angry I get on other line cut in and he says bye... Mom throws phone Dad mad as?????????/@@@@@@@@@@@@@. We chat again and do another walk...... calms down after awhile back to Margaret’s and get packed to go to GP for eye drops and to sleep.... Dad very hungry after walking in backyard.... He is thoroughly enjoying Mary’s custard and muffins which he ate after walking and then continued to have applesauce and crackers..... chatted lots about the war and boxing..... at 11pm did eye drops and went to bed..... Is AM Tuesday I went to grocery store and going to do drops in a little while he will go swim today then off to RR to be with Mom and have a visit with my godson (the Daddy) and Crystal.... Sue did night duty last night I will be with Mom and have night duty for 2 nights... Margaret done with school Thursday......
Lots of decisions to make on daily basis... now that Dad needs daily help scheduling is difficult... Dave C doing eye drops every AM this week for Dad.... Greg watching Mom for 2 hrs today while I see Sean.... each day a challenge and stressful but seems to work its way out somehow.......
God has blessed this family for a very long time and will continue to do so and we come upon there daily challenges....... Keep praying
Love, Carol
June 15, 2005
hello it is Wed AM... yesterday I went to the store for Dad got groceries and did eye drops...Dad states he thinks he used to have something wrong with prostate didn’t sleep a lot going to the bathroom... now on homeopathic med and Mom not being there he sleeps 4 or so hr at a time and is relieved.... thanks to Margaret for opening up her home and the constant care given by all.... back to Rogue River for Mom duty.. went for walk with Sue around block 2x. then Mom and I had lunch.... Sean, Crystal and Ara arrived and we visited with them for awhile on Sue’s porch and I had an ear wax experience..... everyone should try it. quite interesting.... back to Margaret’s for awhile Greg watched Mom and I went back to Sue’s for an hour... beautiful baby and great parents they seem to have it worked out well.... then took Mom for a walk in wheelchair weather has been beautiful, then a later dinner..... then cutting veggies for Margaret for her noodles... Lori came up for a nice visit and is celebrating her 4th anniversary on Thurs... boy, time flies... I had night duty last night up quite a few time but the rail is not on bed for the 2nd night so sometimes she gets up by herself... its like you sleep with one eye open... and as far as my ears go I could hear her much better thanks to Sue and the ear wax job.... going to try to give a shower to Mom today hopefully and not sure what else.... to all FLEXIBLILITY is the key to all...............
as I lay in bed this am Jon up Mom moving around in room and Jon says good morning and asks if she needs any help.............. so sweet.....................
‘til next time
Carol
June 15, 2005
SO IT’S WED STARTED OFF GOOD WE TOOK SHOWERS... CHANGED SHEETS DID 3 LOADS OF LAUNDRY... HAD LUNCH AT HOME WENT TO SENIOR CENTER DOWNTOWN RR.... LADY WAS SICK TODAY SO IT WAS CANCELLED SO INSTEAD OF GETTING IN CAR WHICH IS AN ACT OF CONGRESS... WE TOOK A WALK QUITE AWAYS DOWNTOWN WENT TO 2 THRIFT STORES, BEN FRANKLIN AND ROAMED... SHE STARTED GETTING ANGRY ON THE WAY BACK FROM WALK.. GOT IN CAR WENT TO MARGARETS... VERY MAD AT ME THE ENTIRE TIME... SUE GAVE SOME INFO I READ BEFORE ABOUT REDIRECTING, TURN ON TV ECT... ABSOUTLY NOTHING WORKED... SHE WOULD NOT SAY A WORD AND THAN IF SHE DID SAME OLD SAME OLD... JOEL CALLED WAS ON HIS WAY AND I WARNED HIM GRANDMAS MOOD.. HE SAID I WILL HAVE TO CHANGE THAT FOR YOU........... THANK GOD....... HE CAME AND SHE WENT OUT WITH HIM TO FRONT AND HE GOT A BIT OF AN EAR FULL... HE VACUMED HER CAR FOR HER AND DID HIS OWN AND CHANGED OIL. BOY WAS I GLAD FOR THE DISTRACTION.. MARGARET CAME HOME IN THE MEANTIME SHE ALSO HAS A FABULOUS WAY WITH HER.... I MADE CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES AND DINNER.... DAVE AND SUE CAME FROM DAD’S AND BROUGHT HER A BEAUTIFUL BOUQUET OF FLOWERS.... IN A VASE THEY GO AND TO DINNER WE EAT..... WHILE DINNER GOING ON DAD CALLS THEY CHAT FOR A FEW… FAIRLY A CIVIL CONVERSATION. DAD SAYS HE NEEDS TO EAT HE IS HUNGRY... THEY HANG UP... THEN OFF FOR OUR WHEELCHAIR WALK AROUND THE BLOCK......... I AM GETTING MORE EXERCISE UP HERE THAN I HAVE HAD IN A YEAR... FRESH AIR DOES WONDERS..........WALKED WITH SUE AND DAVE AROUND BLOCK MOM SITS IN WHEELCHAIR IN YARD AND WAVE WHEN WE GO BY.... ANOTHER FIT….LATER IN EVENING SUE WORKS WITH MOM FOR A FEW AND SAID IT’S OK TO BE SAD BUT THAT’S WHAT WE ARE DOING... MOM COMES OUT OF ROOM AND LEAVES MESSAGE FOR DAD ON PHONE AND WE GO WATCH SOUND OF MUSIC.... IT’S TEN PM AND TURN IT OFF..... TIME FOR ME TO CATCH A SNOOZE.............. YOU THINK SHE WILL SLEEP LATE AND OR NOT GET UP TOO MUCH??????????? ANY WAGERS??????????????? WILL KEEP YOU POSTED.......
LOVE, Carol
p.s. MARY I THINK YOUR SUGGESTION FOR DAD TO CALL HER ONCE IN AWHILE IS WONDERFUL. I ALSO ASKED DAD IF HE MINDS IF SHE CALLS HE SAID NO HE USUALLY DOES NOT ANSWER THE PHONE AND WILL DECIDE TO CALL BACK OR NOT........... TONIGHT I WENT TO THE PHONE IN THE BACK ROOM AND CALLED DAD AND LEFT A MESSAGE NOT TO ANSWER BECAUSE SHE WOULD BE CALLING HIM IN 2 MINUTES.......WHICH SHE DID AND LEFT HIM A MESSAGGE...........SWEET DREAMS TO ALL.....................
June 16, 2005
last night she was up quite a bit... sometimes you just quit counting...thought she was getting up about 8 and then she never came out of room till 10am............... wow.......... Dave Cotner over and we shot the bull......... then we did a load of wash and made a pound cake and back to sleep in her chair she goes... she sleep quite a bit in early afternoon... then we played cards and racko and did a 25 piece puzzle which she had fun doing.. she worked on outside of the puzzle and wanted me to do the middle then I got a phone call and she worked and worked and got the middle together herself with a little help... it was cold and wet today so we did not go out at all which makes for a longer day...........not quite as confused today and her mood was much better than yesterday.... Sarah and Evan came over this evening and Grandma and Evan were trying to play racko... it was a crackup....... then trying to put numbers in order.... Evan and I were talking about school and he said he will be in kindergarten again this year because he doesn’t know his Mom or Dad phone number and Grandma said I don’t know my phone number either... so we all got a chuckle out of that. Margaret done working today and very relieved....went to see Dad on lunch hour and ended up there for over 2 hrs.... Tomorrow I will take Mom to senior center and they have a caregivers meeting this week so will attend and pass info... than I will go to Dad’s and make salad and visit per my instructions from Margaret......... the planner.... Mom getting to bed tonight not too happy but didn’t pitch too much of a fit.............. turned on her music and got her comfy.............. time for what snooze I can catch..
Love, Carol
June 17, 2005
soooooooooooooo up tons last night........ o well you adapt..........flexibility.......... glennon theme.......in AM I took Mom to senior center she and I visited and then she made a collage and I went to a monthly support meeting with a few other women........... not any new suggestions but different people with similar problems.......Dad went to one of these but he was the only man there....... since not caring for Mom now per say he feels he does not need to go.......... he went to one ..that’s enough.. back to Margaret’s for lunch... then I went to grants pass for Dad duty........ I vacuumed and put his clean sheets on bed he had already washed them. Watered plants went to grocery store and made him dinner per his directions and also made some stewed tomatoes per his directions and a veggie salad thing Diane started. For future visitors... directions to above items and more are in spare room on yellow pad......... they will come in handy........ be prepared. he looks a little better today than the other day......... doing eye drops by himself.... he mentioned that he thinks his blood sugar is messed up and he needs to go out and exercise in backyard.......... later said he has some lesions on his back and wanted aloe vera on it but not tonight he was too tired... if my food passed his dinner taste buds he might have me over next week to do more for him...............back to Margaret’s for Mom duty... Heather came over for a short visit... Margaret spending night at Lori's they are out of town for anniversary, Jon out of town, Greg at Joel's since Joel out of town.... just Mom and I tonight... she was a little nervous I assured her we were fine without a man and we doubled checked the doors............. good night to all.............. Carol
From: Carol
June 18, 2005
So it was Mom and I alone last night........... nobody else home......... a little strange but went ok.... went to bed 10ish... up several times till 11 then I heard her some but she didn’t call so I stayed in bed but not sleeping... she called at 3 ish........ had wet the bed and couldn’t move........... got all cleaned up and back up again 45 minutes later same story......... finally back down by 5 am.... was up by 8:15 to start day........... Margaret and Heather had mother daughter time at the mall and many other places in Medford............ You know it’s so far away..... they invited Mom and I to meet them for lunch.... it was another cold wet day but after showers Mom and I we ventured to that far away place called Medford... was a nice lunch looked in Myer and Frank.... with all… then Mom and I off to walk the mall and window shop.... Margaret and Heather continued to many stores............ Mom and I had another shower getting in the car from the mall was raining quite heavy and as you know Mom is no spring chicken............ conversation on way home where is Tom etc............. seems a little more accepting and then we came home… folded clothes, watched some TV and called Dad left message that she and I are spending the night here... will see him tomorrow for lunch.... Heather and Margaret home 5:30 ish... Sue came over they had a wedding visited a bit..... she has graciously offered to keep Mom tonight since this is night 5 for me I took her up on the offer and I will go to Heathers for an hour to see baby shower presents and then back here to Jon's bed to SLEEP. it always seems to work out around here with all ............... till next time......
June 19, 2005
Sleep is a wonderful gift needed by all at one time or another.... Thanks Susan for the relief........ went to see baby stuff at Heathers till 10ish sat night then visited with Sue while Mom slept for a little bit then off to Jon's bed about 10:45pm ... woke up at 5:45 AM did not hear a thing all night.......... was WONDERFUL.
Sun AM watched mass on TV the priest talked a long time Mom got fidgety but sat through.... breakfast walk ect.. Heather came over........... Met Dad and Kathy at Wild River for Father’s day lunch........ Mom did very well and Dad looks good............ Mom did not have any angry moments at the table and did fairly well on the way back to Margaret’s.......... we chatted about situation but she did not holler or cry or get mad at Dad during lunch which was nice........... back to Margaret’s Lori and Henry came by Mom and I played games watched Sound of Music and off to be we go...........Margaret was thinking about taking Mom and I to coast tomorrow but no handicap room available.... so will find something to do I am sure. Margaret started telling Mom she will be staying here indefinitely when she asks when she is going home. Mom seems fine with the answer........... till next time.......................Carol
June 21, 2005
The coast was an adventure yesterday....today Tuesday Mom had a shower and then to pizza at Bacci's with Heather Cheyenne Jon and Margaret... Cheyenne has 2 kids Mom loved talking and watching them... I went to Dads afternoon did shopping for him 2 stores made dinner fish etc made pineapple sauce and visited. looks ok... he says he is tired from the air being so heavy and one of his eye drops make him tired. He didn’t eat breakfast until 2pm yesterday.............. back to Rogue River visited 15 min with Scott and Heather then to Kathy and Sheila's for 30 then to Sue and Dave's for 30 back to 416 to put Mom to bed.. Margaret looked tired she cleaned and reorganized her house today.......put Mom to bed about 10 and she is now roaming the hallway................... ugh............. will close for now.... Danny and Paula here sometime tomorrow...
2 observations: When you get Mom in car if only to go down the street to pizza or anywhere she always thinks she is going home and the questions begin......... not to say she should not go in the car but maybe just a heads up.............emailing info if great for those of us who don’t live here d but probably somewhat of a task for the informant.....
Love to all, Carol
From: Paula Glennon
Sent: Thursday, June 23, 2005 5:06 PM
Subject: G and G
Albuquerque Glennon days 1 and 2........Got into town around 11a.m. on Wed. Got to see Carol briefly before Heather and Cheyenne took her away to the airport. Had a nice visit with them before they left for Medford. Had a lovely lunch with Grandma on the Cotner's porch. Patrick and Melissa were recruited as kitchen assistants and the fare was scrumptious! Very nice company and atmosphere eating on their front porch!
Jon took Danny, Patrick and Melissa out on the river for rafting/kayaking. According to both kids the trip was !Awesome! Melissa almost flew off the raft! They had never done anything like this before, and Patrick was quite the natural. They came home wet and wild!
Paula and Grandma had a nice visit with Sheila and Joey while they were at the river. Boy, is he getting big! He was into everything! Walking all over the place. Sheila looks great, motherhood certainly agrees with her. She had seen Heather's OB and he says to cut back her hours at Costco to 24 hr/wk. I think that is a great idea, sounds like she has been working way too many hours.
Dinner was served in the Cotner's backyard. Again, the younger Glennon siblings were recruited as assistants. Dinner was delicious and oh so nutritious! We got to visit with Sean, Crystal and Arri. What a little bundle!!!! And it was wonderful to see Sean and finally meet Crystal. After dinner everyone toured Dave and Susan's new RV (purchased earlier that day) Quite the rig!!! Got all the bells and whistles!!! Then Crystal, Paula and the Kids played several high stakes rounds of Rummy Cube (after slight adjustments to the rules to accommodate the rookies, much to Sean's dismay). It was a fun night for all and the Glennon family appreciated the good food and enjoyed the good company.
Grandma had a pretty good day with all the company. I thought she was in a good mood almost all the time. We did wear her out, but she mostly bounced back after a pre-dinner nap. Danny had night duty that first night. He was very good with his mom. Very patient, and helpful with her. Got up about 5 times, mostly between 11:00 and 2:00.
Up early on Thurs am for walk (Margaret, Heather and Paula). Quite invigorating (gorgeous morning) and tiring (Heather walks too darn fast for us!!!) Had a cup of coffee at Heather's and visited with Cheyenne and Ethan and Ellie. Met up with Susan and Melissa out walking on the way back. Danny and Patrick were off on a rigorous adventure to buy Great Harvest breads and groceries. Only got lost twice!!! (Pretty good). No big thing, since everything's soooooo close around here!!!
Paula, Melissa and Grandma hung out watching a great movie (The Scarlet and the Black, highly recommended by Susan) while the boys shopped/got lost and Margaret went to the Y for swimming and yoga. Then yummy lunch with Jon and tour of the Fire Station. Quite interesting and fun to get inside the trucks and ambulance. Jon sure knows his stuff!!!
Danny, Patick and Melissa are currently baking blueberry pound cake, Grandma is napping and Margaret has left to help set up at Heather's baby shower. Kathy will pick Grandma, Melissa and Paula up after work and drive us over to the shower. Looking forward to seeing her, just ran out of time (and energy) last night for a visit to the Allensworth house.
That's all for now, just saw the time and have to get all ready to go.
Love,
Paula
From: Paula Glennon
Date: 6/28/2005 5:25:15 AM
Subject: G and G
Well, we're home now. I'll try to fill in where I left off at Margaret's on Thursday. Kathy picked Melissa and I up for Heather's shower. Grandma was just too tired to go and we weren't going to push her. She ended up staying home with Patrick, Danny and Greg and watched the whole NBA Final Game. She had a good time with the boys!!
We had a really good time at the shower. Lots of people, good food and gifts to unwrap. I really enjoyed seeing the Allensworth ladies and meeting several of Margaret's co-workers. Caryn, Heather's mother-in-law, has a beautiful backyard out in the country.
Thursday night was a little rougher for Danny, up a lot. Grandma woke up Friday and ate about six of Danny's blueberry walnut squares. We had to finally hide them from her! I walked with Margaret and Heather and enjoyed more of Cheyenne's gourmet coffee. Then we headed up to Margaret's with Ethan for Danny's world renowned French Toast. Susan and Dave came over for a slice too. Joel came later and scarfed the leftovers. All gave rave reviews!
Margaret went swimming, to a friends and garage sale-ing. Danny, Paula and kids hung out with Grandma, Joel and Greg and cleaned a little and did a little laundry. Danny fixed strawberry and blueberry smoothies for lunch.
Glennon's went to Grants Pass to pick up Grandpa around 3:00 pm for the BBQ. Came back and learned how to prepare trout on the barbie. Thanks, Henry, for the great fish and great recipe ideas. The BBQ was a huge success, lots of people in and out and eating and visiting. Thank you, Margaret, for getting everybody together for us to visit with. Glennon’s took Grandpa to Fred Meyers on way home to pick up a few things. He took some of Danny's blueberry pound cake (another hit with the Oregon crowd) home to enjoy later.
Friday night was another rough one, Grandma up many times and very weak. She got up Saturday morning in pretty good shape and in a good mood and looking for those walnut bars for breakfast. Danny gave her a couple and hid the last couple for her for later.
We sadly said our goodbye's and headed north to Salem. It was a busy and fun 3 days. It was so good to see so many of you gals and guys (Danny told me to put that!) Hopefully we won't take 7 more years before we come back. Thank you! We love you!
P.S. I may not have everyone's email that usually gets these, so please forward on to whoever I missed that is in your family. Thanks!