Oregon 2005 Jan

1/1/05

From: Margaret Peterson

Subject: Happy New Year

Saturday AM at the Glennon’s--all is quiet---the usual wake up time here is between 8:30 and 9:45 AM. David knocked on the door yesterday at 9:40 and Mom and I were just moving. Well I had been moving for quite a bit but Mom got out of bed at 9:38 AM.

Dad stayed in bed until almost 10AM. Slow day yesterday here at the house. Mom and I did get out for awhile but the rest of the day and night seemed to drag on. We watched a little TV and headed to bed around 8 PM -- sleeping the New Year away like all sensible old/young people!
Mom and I got to see a new baby yesterday afternoon. My friend, Margaret’s daughter delivered the night of 12/30 so off we went to the hospital to visit. It was a teeny tine little boy (6lbs 9in) with some proud parents and grandparents. When we walked up to the family birthing center, you have to ring bell and they look out through a window to let you in. So the nurse saw me pushing the wheelchair and she says--"I'm coming--I'm coming”. Three seconds later she comes rushing through the doors saying "I thought we had another customer out here”. She was referring to Mom in the wheelchair because all OB patients get wheeled up in a wheelchair so she thought the wheelchair I was pushing had a pregnant Mom in it. I told the nurse she was about 50 years too late and then we laughed. It was hysterical from my view. Mom didn't really get it but she agreed that she wasn't having a baby!!!
Then we went grocery shopping and of course had an accident--I put the depends out for her to wear in the AM and she usually wears what I pick out--but that morning she switched to underwear --tricky Mom--soooo I had extra stuff in the car for her and we had to do a big deal change at the grocery store--I told her if she would just wear her pull up when we go out --we won't have to go through this and she said she would wear them every time--if I reminded her--so we will see how long it lasts this time---
Dad seems to be doing much better--leg seems fine--been swimming and exercising in the back yard---having a very good attitude with Mom the last 24 hours plus some--
sometimes I think that maybe we don't need to be here for 24 hours-maybe we could cut 4 hour s off in the early morning--or after dinner when Mom just sits in her chair and the TV blares----o well--
time will tell----
nothing planned for today--as of now--but we usually end up doing something--will see how the day unfolds--
love Margaret

Jan 2, 2005
Now it is Sunday AM---everyone is sleeping but me ----it is about 9:30 AM!
Yesterday Mom went to a movie with Shelby and Kathy-- (Christmas with the Kranks)--she thoroughly enjoyed it--Shelby came out singing Xmas songs--and said to me--grandma made it and she didn't fall asleep once!!!--Then Kathy and grandma came out--and grandma looked so happy--Kathy said she laughed and talked and laughed and talked and had a good time---Kathy said she made it without a potty break or accident--so everyone was happy--I did make sure Mom had a ("pantie pull up" on)--because we had an accident while we were out on Saturday and it was not pretty- (I keep a change of clothes in the back of her car)-so I told her we were back to wearing them when we went out---it went over soo soooo-but she did cooperate---
Joel came over to do some work at grandmas but Dad told him it was new years day and we don't work on this day---so he visited and left--
After the fun movie we came home and had a salmon dinner with Dad--I made the salmon according to Susan's directions (add garlic, butter and cilantro) and he raved about it--we finished a lot of leftovers last night--so we will start with more again today! Sean and crystal are going in to have lunch with the folks after we go to church---
Then last night we watched another movie--princess diaries 2--Mom enjoyed it tooo--then we watched a reunion of the Andy Griffith show--both the folks enjoyed that---a few minutes after 9 we headed to bed--did usual routine and about 30 minutes later--THUMP_-Mom fell out of bed--she doesn't remember how it happened--but it looks like she tried to get up for potty and somehow slipped--- Dad and I got her up and back it bed-(quite a chore)-but she was pretty anxious about the whole thing--heavy breathing--nervous chatter--worried a bout falling out again--I told her to scoot over and I would sleep with her--but she wouldn't go for it--so sat on the edge of bed and rubbed her back and hair--wanted to put the bedrail up--but she was adamantly opposed to it--wanted to put a reclining chair next to her bed-and sleep there-but she said no--I will be alright--(the Glennon martyrdom syndrome) took her forever to go back to sleep--
It was a long night---she did a light doze and then had to go potty--I was surprised --but she got up and I followed closely and she went potty--no broken bones--no aches no pains--she was much slower than usual but she did it--then back to bed--up again at 2PM for potty--up again at 3:30 for potty--up again around 7 for potty--up again around 8:20 for potty and now it is after 9 and her and Dad are sleeping well-- do NOT mention fall to her if you call--I doubt if she will remember it this AM--seems like she was somewhat in a daze when it happened--like half asleep--not sure that Dad will want to talk about it either--so go gingerly with topic--Dad did well with her--reassurance--said some Hail Mary’s--gave her rosary--kept asking her if she needed a anything--but he was getting a bit frustrated at the same time---okay---the end---
We will see what happens today---usual Sunday plans--church-get trash out front--lunch out-and then hang out--and eat some more--we ran out of Dad's favorite salad last night--so I am sure I will make some more later today--
DANNY--Dad said to tell you he went through a bunch of mail last night and he found the gift card for harvest bread-- (great gift-my opinion) anyway Mom and I will go and buy a loaf on Wednesday when we go to Medford to pick up carol---
Love to all Margaret

Went to church---came home did breakfast dishes and trash---made salad--waited for Sean and crystal--they arrived--the 4 of them went to lunch--while the ugly stepsister stayed behind and cleaned the house-- (my choice) Mom told me I could have anything I wanted if I found her tooth--which I did find---my reward was seeing how happy she was--the tooth has been missing for at least a week--found it under the bed---actually hooked on Dad's bed frame---
Folks had a good lunch with Sean, Crystal---
They got home and Mom and I took off for Fred Meyer's--for more groceries--I have never shopped so much for anyone--they always seem to need groceries--it is an endless and very specific list---but then Mom tired out and I brought her home and off I went to finish the shopping--she napped--now I it is 6:30 PM and she is in bed--she thinks for the night--she was very, very exhausted and weary late afternoon--she is complaining of her knees hurting and they probably do--since she probably fell on them last night--she was faced down on the floor after the fall--so I am sure her knees got bumped from the fall---although she has absolutely NO recollection of the fall--she thinks she slept all night long and nothing happened--she is funny--she always says I slept good--but in reality--she doesn't-really know-well sometimes she does do pretty good---
Dad and I don't even talk about the fall--it is like it never happened--we both don't like her going to bed so early--but she was so tired--there was no other choice--when she does this though she usually sleeps for about an hour--then gets up until 9-10--
If we have a goodnight--I am going to get up and go to work from 6AM till 10AM--then my sub will come in--if we have a bad night--I will just stay here---then I am off Tuesday and Wednesday---but kind of wanted to get some stuff down the first day back after vacation--
earlier today we looked at pictures of carol--so she could figure out who you were, my dear--you were oh soo beautiful in the ancient shots---she did remember you---yipeeee!!!!--
Okay--going to chill out and do something--not sure what--probably read---Dad is eating and watching some talk show---
Tomorrow afternoon we will go into RR and watch Shelby--after school---
Love Margaret
PS when Mom went to bed she said, I hope I make it through the night---wasn’t sure if I should pass this on to you guys or not--but here it is--she has said similar stuff before--I think she is totally exhausted today and will be fine after a good sleep--she is one tough cookie---or am I the Cookie??? hahahahahahaho!

Jan 4, 2004 7:53am
From Margaret:
I've been for a walk and a swim and the folks are still snoring. Well they don't really snore but you will occasionally hear some noises from Mom's nose--not too frequent though.
Last night was another uneventful night -- just up for the bathroom 3-4 times. We attempted to go to bed around 8PM last night but Mom decided she was hungry. So it was almost 9:30 before I hit the pillow.
Yesterday afternoon we got Shelby went to Bacci's Pizza and then walked over to the Rouge River Goodwill and did some clothes shopping for Shelby. All kid's stuff was 50 cents and she got some good deals. Lori met us there and she got a pair of pants. Mom is looking for a sweater or 2 so we will head to St. Vincent's or I will save that job for Carol. It really is a fun place to shop. Oh no! I am becoming more like the folks!!!!
After Goodwill yesterday, we drove to Shelby's house to baby sit her and Mom REFUSED to get out of the car. She said, "I am not going in there. I need to go home and check on your Father." There was no sense in even discussing it. We drove to Grants Pass and then she wondered why I still had Shelby. Oh well! So I took Shelby back to Rogue River and came back so Dad could go to the store. I have been doing all the shopping and I think he missed it and so he got to go yesterday. Although he loves someone else to do it, I don't think he has shopped for 2 weeks and he used to shop nearly every day.
Yesterday I stopped at the bank and left Mom in the car. I came out and she had 2 tissues spread out across her knees. So I asked her what she was up to. She replied that she was drying them out because they felt damp from sitting in the car and she did not want to throw them out but wanted to use them. I told her she was funny and she laughed but I was thinking that this Momma has some serious Depression era issues still lingering on --you know from the war time when a penny was valuable--the economic depression--not the emotional one--those are the kids that I work with--big difference!!!!! Okay but Mom is still very cheap with her money. Dad would throw a whole box of tissues out if they were opened wrong. Opposites attract?
No big plans for today. I would like to go to work for about an hour this afternoon to help with a project. I'll see if Mom will go with me. She probably will.
Tomorrow we will head out to the airport to pick up "(my cousin)" Carol--a quote from Mom. I told her Carol was my sister and she said okay.
Love to all Margaret
PS to Diane --Raven's cooking class starts up again tomorrow--Jackie and I are going-so will let you know how it goes--
PPS--Dad started eating goats milk yogurt every night before bed--kind of like the warm milk idea---
PPS Mary--what is Jeremy's address? Dad had one on State Street but thought it had changed and I don't have his address and Susan is out of town...
PPPS Mary--you called about what the folk’s need-when Mom and I were on our way out and you chatted with Dad. Well Dad has been asking for new glass bowls with lids (just the sit on top type--no twist, turn, pop on or screw ones)--they have only 2 small ones left (with a very small handle on side) and they are used constantly for storage of small --1 person leftovers. He wants that small size--like a custard dish with a lid---or a variety of the smaller sizes. Anyway I have looked at several stores here and cannot find what he wants. They must be clear, see through, and glass. None of that blue stuff from Pyrex. Just a thought if you are out and about and looking and want to wrap a few in your clothes in your suitcase. He would gladly reimburse you for the cost.
Love to all Margaret

Dad wants to start using his olive oil and his gingerroot (not tea) for eating/cooking--any simple ideas--love meeeeeee

January 4, 2005 7pm
This is my last email from Moms for a bit--carol arrives tomorrow then Mary on the 12th---Mary leaves on the 18--so Susan or I will be back then--so we had a great day--went to school--did my meeting and Mom was very good--I brought her crocheting with us---just needed 2 potty times--we now carry a potty topper in the car to put on regular toilets so the seat isn't too low and then she feels better about getting up and down off of the john--today was the first day that I used it and it worked welllll--
Had a delicious salmon dinner--going to buy an already cooked chicken tomorrow from Fred Meyers on way home from airport---give carol a few cooking instructions and off I go---to work the next few days!!!!
Good night--over and out--
Love Margaret
We also stopped at Wal-Mart---came home, ate (of course) watched mash--fell asleep--talked with aunt Edie---got ready for bed---an uneventful day---


1/5/05 9am
Subject: DEPENDS
Cute Mom story before we leave for the airport--she was up extra early today a little before 8AM--to go pick up my cousin--don't know why she has that thought stuck in her head--but she does--
Anyway I laid out her clothes last night and I put a Depends out for her--and she did put it on this AM for our big trip--but she told me that she tried to hide them from me and I found them anywise--she said she is going to think of a better hiding spot--she is funny---love Margaret

Sent: Thursday, January 06, 2005 9:30 PM
Subject: Life at 1016
Hello all, Arrived yesterday in the chilly land of Oregon... Pilot said 38 degrees... Sun was shinning but a tad nippy... Mom and Margaret to greet me.... They both look well... Mom moving very slow.... Hard to get up down in car etc. but want to go most of the time... Worried about Dad she tells me... He doesn’t look well or walk well... he wont talk to her about it wants to know what I think when I see him... Margaret and Mom had been to Costco before I arrived... then after my pick up off to great harvest to spend the gift certificate from Danny and Paula for Christmas... bread & brought muffins, back to GP for Mom to potty... Margaret off to Fridays (Fred Meters) for a few groceries. Mom Dad and I had dinner... then watched some videos Jamie found for me on eBay - I love Lucy and the Honeymooners... Dad thoroughly enjoyed the honeymooners. Did allot of laughter... to bed for Mom about 9 15... up 2 times in night.... Not too bad... was 58 degrees in the house this am... bring appropriate attire those planning arrival... Dad completely turns heat off at night and keeps on more than expected in the day. Friday exercise and Mom and I off to St Vincent thrift shop... Dad gives me directions.... Didn’t quite get them we asked gas station attendant for G Street he was not quite sure ... so we had a little cruise around till we found it... Mom bought 2 sweaters and the people were very friendly to her... hello Agnes... She asked me who I was so she could make sure and tell them the right name.... Back home for potty and sandwich... did some laundry and visiting... Dad off to get haircut and 2 store stops.... So rules needed added to list... I use too much dish soap... Just keep the soap bottle closed and wipe it off on the rage to do dishes... everything goes in glass container not corning ware... I was a little confused.... Plastic on top if no glass lid but a plate on top of that so Mom doesn’t put anything on top of it and make it spill... (This can be a corning ware plate...) before getting butter from freezer make sure you check next to butter box in refrig... usually a stick or 2 in there. I took a shower and Mom watched JAG.... And then we looked at some pictures.... She knew some didn’t know others... She keeps wondering when Margaret is coming back...I don’t think Dad looks too bad.... Mom is very slow and incontinent a lot memory is definitely going.... Will continue another time. Appreciate all that is done by the Oregonians on a daily basis and the sacrifices made by them and their families.... We are trying to help as best we can under the circumstances....
MOM OFF TO A 6 MONTH CHECK UP TOMORROW... JESS FLYING IN ON SATURDAY FOR A FEW DAYS.... CHURCH ON SUNDAY..... BACHIES PIZZA WITH ALL WHO CAN ATTEND ON MONDAY... LIFE IS GOOD....

SWEET DREAMS MY CHILDREN AND SIBLINGS

MOM AND CAROL

Hello to everyone,
It's Mary taking over the helm of the ship here at 1016.... Carol, Susan and Mom greeted me at the airport...we strolled around the parking lot for a while and then carol took off to get back to Albuquerque...’tis amazing.... My first thought at the Medford airport.....Wow!!! The sun is shining...’tis been cloudy in Albuquerque... so it was great to see the sun shining here in Oregon...
.... Pleasant drive to Grants Pass.... Susan and I chatted while Mom took a short nap.... Discussed the fast food book recommended by Colleen...etc..... Arrived at 1016.... Grandpa out walking.... So I walked towards the cemetery and met him...we walked forward, backwards, went up and down the curbs and around and around.... Conversed about this and that...had potato and yam and beets etc. for dinner...Mom watched the "Radio" video.... Enjoyed it.... Brought back some memories of Uncle Frank...Dad and I discussed books, issues etc.....
Thursday morning...trying to memorize the 10 plus pages of notes from my siblings...how to do this and that here at 1016.... Lots of details good info...sometimes funny...fill washer with water first before putting clothes in....so as I was waiting for the washer to fill up Dad said come out of the laundry room and then go back in a few minutes (laundry room is freezing cold).... I listened to my Daddy went in the kitchen, then the dining room.... Was engaged in a conversation with him on the book "the natural guide to Bipolar disorders" and before I knew it the washing machine had gone through half of the cycle already...with no clothes in it!
...Also, since Carol pulled the plug out of the dryer and said it was broken I had the pleasure of changing all the sheets today...(truth is the dryer was truly broken and that's why the sheet cleaning detail was delayed)...the dryer fix it man was here last night and replaced the belt in the dryer...only costs $52.98
This morning.... Mom was up around 7:30 ish.....We had a fun time doing her exercises...tape is wonderful for her...then had breakfast.... We rebelled and didn't make the oatmeal that was mandated on the 10 pages of notes that are in the dresser draw...Mom had cereal...I put all her vitamins on her saucer...she noticed that the little pink one (B 12) was missing ...Dad from his sleep told me where it was and so I added that to her saucer...then gave her her med. for her bladder infection.....Then she took a shower, washed her hair and then curled her hair...next we looked at some videos I brought up here...she found one of Glen Miller and Jimmy Goodman...before I knew it...Dad was up...Dad and I are dancing the "lindy" and the "fox trot"...Mom's trying to take a picture of us but she was laughing so much that the camera wouldn't stay still...then Dad and Mom are singing and singing and singing ...songs with the video.... Songs they remember......talking about the dances at the church each week that they went to...at breakfast they are singing together again and again..... 'Tis was quite special to be here for their special shared time...the video brought back many memories and most of the day they've been talking about the many singers, songs and stories of their days...
Time to get dinner.... Will write more another day...as long as the computer continues to cooperate....
Love, Mary, Mom
Dave, please forward this to Paul and Becky.... I don't have their email address here

Hi,
Its day 2 here at 1016. Mom was only up twice last night, first time she was a little dizzy but she still managed okay. This am we had a delightful phone call from Jeremy....'Tis a good way to start the day (9:30 am...Mom just got up, Dad was still in bed)...then, Mom and I started to do tai chi...a change from the Melinda chair aerobics...then, lo and behold there was a truck out in front of the house and out stepped Dave C...the fix it man at 1016...he chatted and visited and fixed a few things and then chatted and visited a bit more...’tis was a nice visit...later on Mom said Dave C...is good company.... I’m glad when he comes to visit.........then we had breakfast and then off we went to party in the town.....First stop.... Eye glass place to get Mom's glasses fixed.2nd stop...gas station...nice I didn't even have to pump the gas...then off to St. Vincent's thrift store where 3 ladies knew Mom and chatted with her...Mom found a white sweater for $2.25 ....’Tis a nice sweater.......then off to Gottschalk.....Looked at all the sale items.....Then homeward bound where Mom and I made some potato-leek soup....yummy.....Dad’s out swimming ....... So what else can I say for today....... Mom’s been very coherent and logical these two days...she's a bit concerned about why people are staying here.... That she feels Dad and her can handle things on her own...I tried to explain a bit but I know she wants to feel that they can still be independent without outside help.....Basically, though the mood has been wonderful here.... Singing and laughing and talking.....Laughing about the 10 or more pages of notes for me to follow...good info but sometimes comical also...
Time to go and do this and that....
Love, Mary, Mom
Dave...please forward this to Paul/Becky I don't have their email address on this computer.



From Jessica Robertson:
Hola!! I thought that since everyone else sends a summary of their time with grandma I should too! Well, they both looked a lot better than I had expected. The first night I was there Grandma was not very talkative and seemed confused. I think it was because there were a couple of us over there having pizza. That night when Mom helped her to bed she seemed thrilled to have me (Carol’s daughter) staying there too. The next day we just chilled out their house. Grandma woke up in the best mood. All day we laughed. The night before she said she didn't want to go to church, so we didn't plan on going. But she woke up and wanted to go. Grandpa walked to church because it was a nice day (that’s what he said anyway, I personally thought it was FREEZING!!!!). After church we went to the Sizzler to eat. I pushed grandma in the wheelchair and told her to hang on tight b/c I was a crazy driver. We had a really good lunch; we all ate allot and had some very good conversations. Grandma still had energy when we got home so we talked some more. Her and grandpa talked a lot about New York and when everyone was kids. It was funny hearing the stories. We also watched the video for the 50th wedding anniversary and another one I think Aunt Diane put together. It was very, very neat. Grandma smiled and sang along with all the songs. We had such a good day. We stayed up until 10:30 at night sitting at the kitchen table. We were having so much fun that grandpa even came to join us! They both love to laugh! My Mom was being very silly which just made them laugh more. Grandma kept saying that she loved to tease my Mom. Boy did she! It seemed like all of her jokes were towards my Mom, but she was a good sport and kept on smiling.
If I have one piece of advice for everyone its: have a nice haircut when you go up there. Make sure that it is straight and not layered. Keep all hair out of your face!!! That is very important, ponytails are best if your hair is long. Short haired people keep it off of your face!! If you have bangs, find a clip to keep them back!! Males, facial hair, however cool it may be, is not cool to grandma.
I can't even begin to count how many times she would ask my Mom about her hair. It was either crooked (its layered) or in her eyes. She always seemed to have this one piece of hair that was just driving grandma crazy! Luckily I had forgotten to bring my styling products so my hair was in a ponytail the whole time! She loved it!
Overall, I am extremely glad I went to Oregon. It was great seeing everyone at Bacci's. I wish we could've spent a little more time. When I was there, grandma seemed ok most of the time. Her moods changed very often. She remembered me the whole time I was there. That was my biggest fear. I made a list for her that lists all of their kids, and then the grandkids. She doesn't remember everyone, and gets confused because so many people call her grandma. We looked over and read the list often. She seemed very happy with it. I hope it helps her remember. It was hard leaving, the next day my Mom said that grandma didn't remember I was there. It’s hard to accept reality sometimes, but I am certain that she remembers the happiness she felt. My trip to Oregon also helped me see how loving and caring the Glennon family is. Grandma and Grandpa are very demanding, and it was very tiring just being there for the few days. They are so lucky to have you who help out on a continuous basis. I had no idea how much work was involved and how draining it could be. You all are awesome for doing so much for them. I truly do not know how you are able to do it everyday.
Anyway, I have a math final to work on so I better get started. Thanks everyone for everything while I was there. I miss you all!
Luv,
Jess

From Carol Robertson:
Greetings to all, I am home... Nice to be here... Sad to have left 1016...Lots of laughs, conversation and fun... Some anger moments...... Kudos to the Oregonians for their time and effort put into folks.... WOW what a job..... Mom needs constant care in my opinion and can not be left alone.... Dad doing ok cannot take care of Mom on his own.... Cannot help her get up from chair by himself.... So the burden and challenges continue for the care of them..... I am not trying to sound heartless but I think that Mom needs outside services and Dad should allow them to happen.... She may be angry at first but she will adjust and adapt.... I heard there was a sermon at church regarding children caring for their parents and Dad was sure to point that out to the daughter that missed the sermon.... I would hope that this is interpreted that children do not abandon their parents and not that children should not have a life and should stop their life to care for there parents..(Tom maybe you could shed some light on the subject?)..I fell that Dad is asking allot of the girls up there and there should be a different plan implemented.... The girls up there will be burned out and worn out before long.... I also believe Dad will not be as healthy if things continue as they are. Again this is my opinion... Please do not be offended...

Stories... Dad and Charlie Hollsmocker making there own distilled water.....Dad sledding in the snow and a sled went through someone’s cheek and some guy said he could spit through it..... Diane taking pictures of bats at Chango Valley State Park and the flash caused the bats to come at everyone by the camera... The donuts in Chango Valley and about $10 a week to stay made reservation 1 yr. ahead.... Dad being a signalman in navy and being in 3 typhoons..... Susan buying cigarettes for Mom and Dad... Mom says that’s all she smoked. Not much of a drinker.... Grandma Julie and her glass of wine at night... that Dad had to eventually hide because she wanted more than one.... How the first Mrs. Lunson always told Mr. Lunson that he should take care of Julie if anything ever happened to her.
Painting in New York and Mom comes in and says when you going to Albuquerque. Dad didn’t want to finish paining so he sad tomorrow. They went to Diane and borrowed $400 (I think) and Dad left to Albuquerque. He wondered if he has every paid you back????? We chatted about the basement and playing army... March, about-face, at ease...Mom always liking math and doing a machine thing when in navy...Dad going to new Orleans and getting off train and a sailor said hey come over here I have two girls and just me.... Join us and everything will be paid for.... He remembers the hotel he went to they had drinks and there were some types of fancy dancing going on.... He enjoyed watching them dance and that’s all he remembers about the night.... When he and Mom went to New Orleans years later... found hotel different name but went to same room and brought back the memories of the dancers...Chuckles about Dads driving..... A lady at library in Albuquerque husband had a heart attack and they asked Dad to drive him to hospital.... The man later told people he nearly had another heart attack on the way to the hospital.... Never ask tom to take me anywhere again...He doesn’t know how he lived to get to the hospital...
'Tis all for now... Love to all ... Carol

January 16, 2005 7:48pm
Hello, hello,
Sunday at 1016 went well. Dad set his alarm so that we would have time to eat and get dressed before the 11 o'clock Mass. All three of us drove down to church as we were running a few minutes late. A greeter greeted us at the car door in the parking lot. Another greeter greeted us inside church and then led us down to the first pew. They were just getting ready to do the first reading at church. The African American priest said the Mass and he had a good pro-life homily, though the delivery of the homily was quite dramatic. He's a dramatic speaker.... Something like I would see from a motivational speaker in the South. "Amen!!"
Then, as the schedule goes, garage was taken care of, Mom took a short nap and then off we went to J J's for lunch. Interestingly, Dad always leaves a note on the door saying the time and the name of the restaurant where they are at...this way kids, grandkids, friends etc could come down and join them if they wanted to. Good conversation at lunch and then since the sun was shining we walked a few laps around the parking lot. Sunday is a day of rest here at 1016 which is how it should be. Came home and G & G watched the Glen Miller and Benny Goodman tape....they like the music and the memories. (I did a little housework while they were busy enjoying one another's company.) Then, I actually went for a walk since Dad and Mom were content and the sun was still barely shining. So, ‘tis a quieter day than yesterday and everyone seems content here.
As I look at my yellow pad of paper, these are the random thoughts that I wanted to share with you.
Saturday in kitchen.... Joel and Mom and I chatting.... The conversation moved to dying......Mom said that she is not afraid of dying..... That she use to be afraid of dying but now she accepts it and is comfortable with the idea......we talked a bit about Nanny and others who would greet her when she arrived in heaven....
Today, as we drove past the retirement home......Mom commented how that's where she'll go someday.....She said that she's visited it and that all the people there are very content and that the place is very nice....
Precious Moments.....Dad being sure Mom has relaxing music to listen to in her room as she goes to sleep...Dad putting his hand in Mom's at church...Mom worried about Dad and his legs wishing that he'd talk about it...tonight he did tell me that his arthritis is bothering him and he's a bit stiff and so he'll be going swimming tomorrow because that helps him.
Conversation about Helen...yesterday in the kitchen I tried to begin a conversation about Helen.... Dad mumbled something and left me and walked into his room...later on at the kitchen table.... Again I tried to begin a conversation about Helen...Dad asked me "When is Jeremy's wedding?" and engaged me in a conversation about Jeremy's wedding...then he began to converse about Helen and so I voiced my concerns about Margaret getting worn out between now and June when I get back since Susan will have other responsibilities (being grandma) etc....he said that Mom might not want Helen...the other day Mom told me that she likes Helen...then tonight.... Dad at dining room table...Mom in bed...I told Dad that one thing that carol mentioned in her email is that it would be helpful to have Helen help out.... Chatted a bit more about it...he listened and will think about it.... So seeds have been planted.... I said maybe try a specific schedule.... One day a week.... Moral of the story.... Have a person sitting at a table to have a better chance of them not escaping the conversation....... Or walk with the person...ah.... Walking and talking go hand in hand...
To my surprise...I’ve been warm enough here 95% of the time...the few times that I got cold.... I just went in the bathroom and stood under the heater lamps for a few minutes......ah, nice warmth.....
My this is getting long...I’ll close for now... And will respond to carol's and Jessica’s thoughts another day
Love, Mary
Ps. a preview to tomorrow...I don't think that Mom and Dad should be separated...can't imagine them living apart from each other...my push will be for more and more services in the home to keep them together...

From Aunt Mary:
Sent: Sunday, January 03, 1999 2:30 PM
Hello everyone,
The last 2 emails were written and sent by me (Mary). The way this computer is set up at 1016 is that it shows that emails are from Margaret because her name is on this account. For this week though the emails are from me (Mary).
Here I am again logging in to tell about the day. Colleen began our day with a phone call around 10 am. I was up, grandma had just gotten up and was half-asleep and grandpa was still in bed. It’s been nice to chat with Colleen for a few minutes and then I had to get breakfast etc for grandma.
Around 12 Grandma and I went down to "market of choice" supermarket to shop for lots of organic food. Its interesting ...the balancing and coordination act to push a wheelchair and pull a shopping cart and go in a straight line and pick up food items along the way. Grandma and I were a team and accomplished the task. Towards the end of our shopping spree, the assistant manager (Jeremy by name...another kind, caring Jeremy) came and started pushing the shopping cart for me. At this store, the customer bags their own groceries...but Jeremy had someone bag our groceries and even carry them out of the store and put them in the car for us.... At this store that's not the usual procedure. We bought organic carrots, organic potatoes, organic leeks, organic...everything...people eat very healthy at 1016.
After unloading and putting away the groceries, I decided to give G & G a little alone time and ran to Gottschalk's to return a vest that Grandma had bought yesterday. Then, I was going to go home and G & G & I would decide what to do for the day. Well, the day took care of itself...came home from Gottschalk’s and there was Susan...visited with her, then she left and then Kathy and Shelby arrived...chatted, did puzzles.... Then they were getting ready to leave and Joel arrived...chatted, visited, then Margaret and Lori arrived (and said they'd come back another day).... The last of the company left close to 5 and so then I sat down for a small lunch. Now, it is 8 PM and the dinner dishes have just been completed...I thought I was done with dishes at 7:15 when Dad stopped eating but then Mom decided she wanted some supper too and then I also decided to have a light supper and so here at 8 PM the kitchen is now closed for a short time...’til Grandpa decides to eat again...
Its interesting... becoming more aware of wheelchair challenges...example...yesterday...eye glass place... pathway to door was a hill, then the door at the top of the hill opened outward, but ‘tis challenging to be at the back of the wheelchair so it doesn't roll down the hill and try to get the door open but since the door needed to swing outward I had to move the wheelchair back but then the door was out of reach.... Then on the way out going down that same hill and trying to keep the wheelchair from going too fast...another example.... St. Vincent De Paul thrift store...there's a bump and a small incline to get in the store and the door swings outward...I am a believer in making places more wheelchair accessible...
Other thoughts...tis are wonderful to see the interactions between members of the family and G & G...yesterday.... Dave C. sat and just conversed and relaxed and enjoyed the closeness of family... (G & G....kind, caring and approachable matriarch and patriarch of the family).....today...Joel.....put food in different bowls, got the silverware etc and served Grandma her lunch......the caring and love from and between all the family members and with G and G is just incredible....... We have a wonderful family and mostly because of Mom and Dad's special love that transcend time and place...
Stories:
Why do the Glennon’s all have songs with their names?
When Grandpa was young and in the navy, he was walking back to the ship, a giant paratrooper called him over and said.... My girlfriend is here with her friend, can you come out with us and make it a foursome.... I’ll pay for all the food etc. Grandpa said yes...couldn't pass up a good deal...they went to some fancy hotel and Grandpa was impressed with the giant murals on the walls and then the beautiful chandeliers (sp?), and then 2 people came out to entertain them.... they looked like Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers and danced and sang like them...and the guy sang the song. ... ...and Grandpa decided that when he got married and had a child, he would name his first child Diane...and then all the other siblings have a song that goes with their name.....
Danny's name...shorter story...a priest at his baptism said his name should be Daniel.... Not Danny...Dad insisted that it be Danny from Danny Boy...Danny Boy song is actually the tune of London Aire (something like that) and there weren't words to it for a long time...then years later the words were written....
My eyes are closing...so I better shut this down...will write some more another day...
Love, Mary, Mom

January 20, 2005 10:17 AM
Waiting for the folks to get up--later than usual morning--yesterday they were both up by 8:30--today it is an hour later and I hear nothing---Mom and I went to Costco yesterday--I had to return something-she did real well--but Mary wanted to let you know the fog in Medford was 10 times worse on Wednesday than the Tuesday you left---I bet they downed some flights on Wednesday---Mom and I watched your plane taxi off that afternoon--she has been asking where you are and if you left yet--she has no memory of our trip to the airport--but her mental attitude has been positive and good---Dad went for a walk yesterday--said he never warmed up--the fog hung low all day---
Went to Kathy’s yesterday to wish her Happy Birthday and took her some muffins and small gift---she was home from work with a bad cold---great birthday---sleeping the day away--I would like that!!!!
Mom seems to be doing some heavier dreaming and talking in her sleep than from what I remember--she rattles on about sill y stuff while she sleeps--both nights soo far---not bad-=-just different--not much new here--been slow---
Need to blend/crush some pineapple for Dad--he loves that---
We are busy eating leftovers and soup/custard from Mary---
Thanks for the break carol and Mary--it was wonderful---
Love Margaret

Fri- Jan 21, 2005
From Margaret:
Slow day here--Mom has a slight cough--so we stayed in---coughs more during the night--we made an angel food cake and it was delicious--cooked Dad's salmon Tom's way--olive oil and ginger root--Dad said it was delicious---Helen came over for a visit---I asked her if she wanted the Monday job and she will think about it and let me know--definitely not this Monday--so, Q, see you around noon---love to all Margaret

January 22, 2005
Computer has been acting retarded--so I reloaded the program and something still is not right--
Let’s see if this works though
Mom slept till 10:30 this AM--Saturday--then we had breakfast and Kathy too her and Shelby to a movie--it was a wonderful break for me---this evening we sat around and watched some Judy garland flick--Dad kept getting mad cause it was way too loud--and Mom kept turning it up after he turned it down--they are both in bed finally---
Mom has been coughing the last 2 nights--got her some organic cough syrup today--but I still hear her coughing--2 nights ago was a rough night--leg pains and coughing and a lot of sleep talk--like my husband is a stupid man--he stays up tooo late--over and over again --then she would yell for tom to come to bed--and she was sound asleep and was clueless what she was doing--the same thing happened the night before--lots of silly sleep talk--but none last night---Dad gave her 2 Tylenol for her legs--a huge dosage from Dad--he usually gives her half of a tablet-----Friday Mom and I watched Shelby in RR and hung out at my house while Dad had a break--Friday morning was a rough one--I went swimming and of course Mom woke up and couldn't get out of bed and Dad got her the portable potty and she peed on the rug while trying to get to the pot--talk about poor timing--o well --we all survived--especially Dad--
Tom thinks for caregivers brochure--I will l browse it soon--
Mary the day after you left--many flights were cancelled because of fog--it made the headlines of the Grants Pass courier--
Love Margaret

January 23, 2005
Bad night--up a million times--
Mom coughing a lot--gave her 2 separate does of liquid cough syrup--then later--2 more separate does of homeopathic chewable cough tablets--then up again to give 3 arthritis pills--then again for 2 Tylenol--so she had quite the variety last night--but she still had a restless night----
Going out to eat now---went to church with a pocket full of throat lozenges--she used only 2 of them---seems to be much better in the day--for both cough and legs--then much worse at night for both--Dad has her talked into having Raven--the acupuncturist massage lady to come back and work on her knees----happy Sunday--love Margaret
Diane--do you know anybody from Florida with the first name El?--she sent Mom a Judy garland video and both Mom and Dad are clues as to who it is--Mom even called aunt Edie
And she said she didn't know the lady either--but neither Dad nor I talked with Edie--so who is -the mystery lady from Florida--will have to go find the address label to get her last name--I think it started with a B---o well no big deal—love Margaret

Jan 23, 2005 continued
We had a nice lunch today--great waiter---
Uncle gene called while we were out--we did not call him back--he has a 6ft snow drift on his porch-he said they are not going anywhere!
After lunch Jon came and worked on this computer--it is working better--
Q--it connects automatically now--
Gave Mom some stronger cough syrup-found in her bathroom--did better this evening--will see how the night progresses--Mom was pretty quiet this afternoon as she enjoyed some football and a girlie movie--legs still sore--but she did sit too long--told her she needed more chair aerobics and she said bah humbug--
Susan comes on at noon tomorrow--I come back on Wednesday evening--chat then--love Margaret

January 25, 2005 Susan’s:
Greetings family.... Love the font Margaret Ann..... Great for the aging eyes.... So wow Mom has really gone downhill since last week... I told her to pee in her depends tonight... up for hours last night trying to get her on and off portable potty... this morning however she wake at 8ish ready to take shower... got to bathroom on own but no where else today.... Dad says he is considering options for Mom... ask me to check out nursing homes or 3 points place we check out in oct/nov.... Margaret I told him you wanted RR.... He says no..... Wants me to call Selinger in am and see if he will put Mom on hospice...consider hospital bed in small room.... However he says that perhaps that will be little help for him as she constantly calls him...he was up last night more than sleep trying to help her...she has no recall of course...he got up at 130pm today, had breakfast till 430 then went to bank and church, home before dark.... Then he started this conversation.... She been in bed since 5pm and tried to get up and cant says its not worth it...probably isn’t... she was thrilled when Dad told her to get some sleep and they would watch TV together later... Sean is going to get his nursing belt...used to lift dead weight, not so sure it will work as she can't stand being touch... very hypersensitive skin...Margaret... started on antibiotics, went home this am to get different ones ...was going to call you but afraid to wake up crew.... Dad said he would go get them... its 5 am and still dark... anyway stopped giving her Brian cough medicine and kept the other, sucking on lozenges etc.... changed sheets, wouldn't let me vacuum...Dad ask me to write everyone and let you know what he's thinking... he was interested in hearing sibling observation of events on savage.... Kathy he wants you to check out reverse mortgage... I have some info in box.... Anticipating a great night...I going to bed.... Its 7pm... this is like being at 75-10 juniper valley road... middle village.... Diane don’t know where this leaves you. Not sure any of this will actually take place...but it was his betting.... And if she doesn't improve in her mobility...I believe it will happen...she pooped on bathroom floor and was clueless she had not made toilet... its the hygiene thing that will get to Dad the most.... On the up side she read for an hour today the book blessed child and seem to like it...Diane she did say she wanted two of those cassettes on chair aerobics.... We did it today for 10 minutes and she had enough...good night q

January 26, 2005 from Mary:
These are my thoughts.
1. Since September, Dad has not been able to physically take care of Mom. He takes care of a lot of her other needs, but for almost 6 months now he has not been physically capable of taking full care of her physical needs (getting her up from a chair, shower, wheelchair etc.)
2. We all know that for Dad to retain his own health he NEEDS to spend a quite a bit of time preparing and eating his many meals. It is imperative for him to do this in order to survive.
3. If we had hospice in the house at 1016, the many, many people coming in and out at all different hours would NOT permit Dad to maintain a eating routine that he needs and would NOT permit him to get a minimal amount of sleep that he needs.
4. In conclusion, I think that the time has come for Mom to go somewhere else for her daily care (I never, ever thought that I would ever come to this conclusion.) The toil on Dad is accumulative and he's trying so hard to maintain some standard of health for himself. If Mom goes into some type of facility, Dad can visit her and also maintain a healthy eating and sleeping schedule for himself. Usually, Mom enjoys the attention of people and at a facility she would have interactions with a variety of people and maybe she'll even make a new friend or two. Her physical needs also might be more easily met as personnel at a facility deal with similar situations everyday.

January 26, 2005 10am From Susan:
Greetings one and all, Mom is up and getting dress, much better night... however Dad was up more than Mom... as I ponder last nights email and replies. I still convinced that Dad needs time to live by himself without Mom constant presence.... He has reached his limit and said so himself in so many words - he finds it very encouraging that offspring support this decision.... Mom is cooperative this morning pleasant and putting on her depends...last night she screamed at Dad for putting up the side rail, hit me for helping pull up depends... not pretty...after screaming and threatening Dad he finally conceded and took it down.... Then he has a rough night cause he afraid she will fall... anyway...today looks much better...she smiling, the oatmeal is on the stove, and we're going for a ride if she can walk out side on own accord... cough is much improved still present though... love to all the queen beckons...q

January 27, 2005 8:30am
Greetings siblings.... I though I wrote and perhaps it was lost or who knows... however...the afternoon went downhill and Mom who was so pleasant during the am yesterday was a bear to Dad after I went for a message for less than 2 hours, she had eaten lunch was tired from fine morning outing was sitting in living chair when I left and falling asleep.... When I arrived back you could feel the ice.... Dad said that she had "badger" him for the entire time about why the girls are here...etc.etc... she had touch that though in a month.... so anyway Dad said that he needs rest... several observation... perhaps we have all failed to notice that he is the one who is truly sick and whose time is limited and getting worse with each sleepless night... he said we hear her when she yells or gets up but he wakes for every cough, deep breath and fart... burp.. Etc.... so Margaret and I can continue indefinitely but the more I see and think the more I’m sure that Dad has had enough...!
He is pleased to hear that offspring support his decision... Margaret we have not heard your thoughts on this matter, which greatly impacts you... noticed that Dad... who does not like tea... he told me has brought 3 bottles of essiac tea.... The cancer cure he as tooted for years.... Why is he buying and using... also he brought last week some adrenal support meds which is used under extreme stress... so just observations to pass on... q

From Diane:
Date: Wed, 26 Jan 2005 22:08:08 -0800
I composed a 'beautiful' response last night and lost it before I sent it.
Guess it wasn't meant to be sent! Oh well!
Here's another response -- quick and from the heart....
Wow -- what a week you're having up there. THANK YOU for keeping all of us
in the loop. My heart wants to be there too but now is not the right time.
I do have a flight scheduled March 12 to 21. If it needs to be changed, it
only costs $100.
I will support Dad in whatever decisions he makes. We all have our limits
and it's wise to know when they're reached. All caregivers need time, and
energy, to take care of their own needs so there is strength to care for
others. Dad will be plenty busy taking care of his own needs and visiting
Mom wherever she goes.
Suggestions: While another place is being found (and maybe has a waiting
list), maybe Dad can move his bed into the guestroom and let Mom stay
where she's familiar. The caregiver (Margaret, Susan, hospice or whoever) can
sleep where Dad slept (with the guest bedroom bed). Dad could open the
window and (maybe) shut the guest bedroom door to hopefully get more sleep.
Or tell Mom she's living at Margaret's house until the retirement home has
an opening. Maybe Margaret needs a chance to find her limit too. No
regret in the future is a worthwhile goal. Getting Mom to cooperate is
always the challenge. I went to www.google and typed in dementia behavior.
There's some interesting reading -- most, of which we're already doing. In a
separate email is one of them I found very informative.
From my friend's experiences -- generally the first two weeks of change
there's lots of resistance but it's worth it in the long run for everyone's
health and sanity.
Finances? I love the idea of reverse mortgages but understand there are
many fees and charges above normal mortgages. AARP, which Mom & Dad are
members, also handles reverse mortgages. I think it's worth comparing the
reverse mortgage with Margaret buying the house.
Tell Dad thanks for the rosary book; cute joke and newspaper article about
Raven. Earlier in the day I sent him my Christmas letter from Sister
Gertrude (from New Jersey high school days) and local newspaper articles
that reminded me of him. I did take out my rosary (from Rome blessed by the Pope -- remember q?) and said a rosary for all of you.
I'm heading to Los Angeles Thursday evening for a long weekend with my
favorite son, daughter, son-in-law, daughter-in-law, grandson and
granddaughter. Lucky me has one of each so they can each be favorites!
Feb. 17 weekend Bill & I are heading to see his Dad in Kingman, Arizona.
The Tabutols will join us for the visit. Bill is seeing an eye surgeon the
day before since he was recently told he's legally blind in one eye. No
wonder he's slowed down while driving in the last few years!
I was going to say something else but my mind is blank so this must be
enough rambling for now!

Sent: Wednesday, January 26, 2005 8:31 AM

Mom still getting dressed so another though here..... Yesterday I though
for sure we should try the hospital bed in guest room and see if that would
work... however the goal of getting Dad to sleep at night is again impaired
if she won't let us take care of her... if only she would cooperative she
would do better here... but Dad would not.... He gave me a list to things
to check out which I will do on Monday....work the next four days... Margaret I
put up my schedule for next week...we will have to chat.... Will stay here
till 515...if all goes well...we are meeting days at 530 in RR for
dinner... q

January 27, 2005
Some great ideas for Dad to switch bed. I'll present it to him.... Spring point full, no room in the near future...but who knows... cost per month 3900... couldn't open attachment, will try at mine computer tomorrow...at Sean, stay in town worked 12 hours today, 10 tomorrow.... I’m popped... good night q.....

1-27-05 10:14pm
This computer is crazy.... Will recapture the last note...this day has been such an improvement, Mom is walking on her own.... wearing depends..... We actually went out for drive and errands... stopped and had coffee. She had soup however Margaret its in refrigerator... s she ate little... she is coherent and pleasant and wants to leave house so Dad can sleep.... He went to bed midnight-ish and up more than Mom did...plus with her.... She was better than prior 2 nights.... Took depends off during night... bed is dry this am.... Miracles abound in this house.... So Margaret Mom and I chatted she of course has best intention for Dad is clueless about her nighttime behavior... I suggested two options which Dad suggest during last night talk.... One to RR for few days... (My choice) two... sleep in guestroom with us and not call Dad and hopefully we can manager her.... she did get up on own last night once to go to potty once to use portal potty... but need only one person help... Dad of course gets up and empties port a potty so sleep is still interrupted.... Mom up for number two..she says she sleep in here and not call Dad.... time will tell...... put on draw sheet on bed ...helps to move her when she can't..... Dad is doing much better as well ... he plans on not going swimming however today.... too tired still... its on the upswing however..... will come in Sunday for church and lunch with folk... kindly return by 3ish as I need to leave for work by 4ish.... toddles... hugs q

1-28-05 9:54 PM
it is Friday AM--we had a much better night last night than Thursday night--Thursday night was awful--I thought she needed m morphine for the pain--it got that intesne!!1Dad and I were up endlessly----but last night we were up 8 times--2 potty--portapot and the rest for leg pain--or coughing or idle chit chat--her 5 day antibiotics seem to be kicking in yesterday and even better today--she is blowing a lot of snot out this AM--and looks better--walking on her own again--well with the walker--doing better daily---
I was up last night around 10PM--getting ready to do an email and Dad came to my room and told me it was too late to be on the computer and to go to bed--so I did like a dutiful daughter-and I was tired but trying to get stuff done--but it was funny him telling me to go to bed--like I was still at 7510---but he is only looking out for everyone’s best interest---==Dad is talking bout going swimming this afternoon--he got a better night sleep last night--I mean he was in bed for 14 hours solos at least he seems to feel more rested--more later--Raven is coming to give Mom a massage and I am off to run errands---
love to all Margaret


January 28, 2005 11:55 am
george ann.... findings and thoughts..... Dr Selinger out of office till Feb 3.....perhaps its time to get injection of toradol.... its a nsaid like motrin....for pain another though is kava kava... friend here tried on her Mom for agitation and calming and sleep... I have some home from Fiji... herb will bring over .. you make a tea with it.....morrow heights in rogue river does not take dementia pt... called 3 foster homes don’t take if they are up at night and in continue ..... have a few more...will see how afternoon goes in er..not so busy today...... suggested that we take Mom to rogue river for 3 days after Sunday lunch...and Dad stays in grants pass..... what do you think......how did he do with thought of him in guest room and you with Mom... I know it not easy when he so tired but we got to get Mom out of house for a few days....... q,,,,call me at work if you want...... trick... talk to Dad after he has eaten..... 6084900 ex 3910.... blessings.....q

January 28, 2005 8pm
I think Mom is feeling and doing better--although we still have our Moments---had a somewhat busy day for me--Mom spent time getting a massage and visiting with Lori --ad going RR with me to get Shelby-she didn't really want to go--so we just drove in and back and she appreciated the fresh air-----good night love Margaret

Jan 28, 2005 9pm
Good ideas.......like the one of taking Mom out of the house for a
while....Dad needs time and quiet in order to rebuild himself.........
mary

January 29, 2005 10am
Mom looks good this AM--had a nice hot shower --good breakfast--did exercise--she is reading --I am doing my thing---Dad still sleeping--shut both bedroom doors--let him sleep in--sun is shining--we will probably go out later--somewhere---
had a pretty good night last night--better than the last few--Mom up twice on port a pot--once to rest room with my help--once for Tylenol--and several coughing bouts--but not as bad as previous--overall --a much improved night than previous--she took her last antibiotic today and should be doing better and better each day now---
will write later--love Margaret

January 30, 2005 5:20pm
it is 5PM and Mom is exhausted and in bed for the night--or soo she says--we will see what happens--she was watching the rest of Sea Biscuit and announced she was tired and going to bed for the night--when I told her it was only 4:30 she got mad and said she didn't care--she was going to bed--so now it is a half hour later and she is tucked in and hopefully resting well- I hear nothing---last night she had a fitful night--so perhaps she is real tired--we changed the nightgown 3 timmes last night-gave one dose of Tylenol and one dose of arthritis pills for the leg pain--the good thing about last night was that when she got up to go potty--she walked to the bathroom and we did not have to use the portapot--that was nice---she was real restless from 8PM till 10:30 PM last night--but after that did well--unfortunately Dad was tired and went to bed at 7:45--only to have her tossing and turning--he would have been better staying up--but one never knows---o well- I have now caught Mom's cold and sooo that sucks but such is life--Dad has all the windows open and is airing the house out today--good move as the sun is shining--I did get to go for a nice swim while Susan, Dave and Joel went to church with the folks--then the Cotner's went out to lunch with them tooo--I went home and took a rest---felt soo good---
Susan still checking things out--presenting options to Dad who does not want to do anything with them at this time--I deduct that we are just collecting info and then will sit on it for awhile--Susan and I will continue to support them here at the house until Dad initiates something--I am not talking to him any more about it--waiting for him to say something or make the call--I think he is a thinker for a long time--and I am not going to get my head bit off again--sooo when he is ready --he will say something--get my drift???? until then we are at status quo--Susan comes on tomorrow night--she does better getting some interaction from him--so will let them 2 do their thing--and I will patiently stand by---and do my thing---okay
Mom is walking better--coughing less--but still coughing---her cough has turned into a bit of a head cold--but she is blowing out junk---(more info than you needed?)
okay family--love to all Margaret

Jan 31, 2005 7:14am
it's Monday AM--folks still sleeping at 7AM--not too bad a night--Mom up 4 -5 times to potty--used regular toilet--awaken several times by cough--gave her cough syrup (homeopathic-of course) 3 times during the night---no complains of leg pain at all---she was unusually colder than usual last night--ended up sleeping n bathrobe and nightgown--and I turned heat on at 4 AM this AM--unusually early for the heat in this house--but you do what you got to do--soo happy Monday--later sibs--love Margaret